We just watched Hope Springs. It was a great movie. Displaying the actual problem, awkwardness and lack of intimacy as a couple get married and live together for many yrs.
Many will find it 'normal' not to hv sex due to menopause, stop kissing each other than just a peck on the cheek as it gets embarrassing, stop listening to one another as the dominant role gets too comfortable.
So have you stop and think, what'do you think marriage is?
An option to show that you've grown up and start a new family, living in ur own apartment? Or there is nothing else left in ur relationship so you had to progress to the next phase? Or marriage is just about expressing ur love to the other partner?
How do you feel/think a marriage should be like?
To simply stay together, fulfill the need for sexual desires and finally reproduce and spend the rest of the yrs grooming ur children? Or to live with each other, taking care of each other's daily needs? Or from a child's view, means to live together in a room, talk to each other, hold hands, be responsible to each other?
There is no right or wrong answers. But what you n partner wants for your marriage.
Till this stage, I took ard 2 yrs and still trying to find an answer. There might not be a modal tt I want, but there r modals tt I don not want.
Marriage does not simply contain responsibility of 2 people. I've learnt to tolerate and appreciate more in life, the common obligations and the limited ability to fulfill it.
I want to be married not only do I want to take care of his daily needs, for him to take care of me. I also want to share his burden and joy. Vice versa, to share mine with him. I believe that with both of our strength, we can achieve more for us.
I want to be his best friend, his girlfriend, his wife, his children's mother and his grandchildren's granny.