haiz.. this blog is becoming my channel of venting my fustrations.
Our first CNY as a newly wed.. turns out to have left me pretty speechless.
First was CNY eve, happily ate reunion lunch, then head to mom's hse for reunion dinner. Super full...
CNY night ended late.. was supposed to play MJ but was called off as needed to fetch MIL. apparently MIL went to temple alone w/o FIL. don know and don wanna know the reason.
So dear took a cab home to fetch the car so that we can fetch her back later. time instructed was 1am. after that receive a call to say 2am, cos temple too crowded. By almost 2am, my uncle and aunty still around, so since everyone is already tired and is so late, i asked dear to send them back first. Send uncle and aunty, reached temple 2.30am. pick up MIL, go home. Tink we fell asleep at abt 330 after shower.
woke up 830, dressed up to go back mommy's hse for brekkie. didnt wanna rush cos was too tired due to lack of sleep. MIL complain that we are so slow and by gg back to mommy hse, we cause their itinenary to be delayed, bear in mind SIL still slping. The whole house was just complains, mumblings and scolding SIL to wake up. What a first day of CNY! super auspicious with loud noises.
Was fed up, simply took my own sweet time to dress up and change.. left house at 950, reach mommy hse at 10am.. had yummy western brekkie and left to go back to that horrible place.
1st visit--> cos we are so late.. 1130am, we went to the dears' paternal uncle hse first, met the elders, sat down, watch tv. FIL happy chatting, MIL stoning. 20 min later, MIL stood up to leave and everyone just followed.
2nd visit--> visit to dear's maternal step granny, whole family sat in the 1 bedroom flat, facing each other, awkard silence is observed many times during the stay. conversations were within the family and not many times with the granny. MIL gave ang pow after 15 min and family left.
3rd visit--> visit to dear's maternal gu po, MIL super excited, exclaim loudly at little children, greet everyone happily, FIL greeted everyone, sat down watch TV and we followed. Had lunch and left with FIL and SIL, they both went home and sleep. From here everyone is in their paradise.
4th Visit--> my maternal granny house, had 2nd lunch there, watch tc, played blackjack and napped. was happy there.
CNY day 2 was disaster.Morning 9am, i dressed up. Wanting to go hm to help mom with lunch preparation for relatives. asked MIL what time they are going out for visiting, received a vague answer like ' when everyone is up and ready' (SIL still sleeping, MIL still busy in kitchen and FIL watching TV). My question is not answered. So i asked if is gg to be before noon, like in 1hour time? MIL replied something like that.
so i said: in that case dont rush, you guys go ahead cos i want to go home to help mom prepare. MIL face turned black and started mumbling (cursing?) under her breath.
I then suggested: why dont i go home first and you guys fetch me later when you are done? (MIL totally ignore and continue to complain)
FIL heard and went to tell dear 'why once a year visit nanny also don wan to do?'
I got fed up, went to the room to continue my makeup and plan to leave the house myself. MIL came knocking at the door with tissue in her hand and red eyes, telling me to go visit nanny cos we are newly wed and is the first year. She promised that i can go after 15 minutes in the house and asked me to wait for the family to get ready, nicely (finally).
to be frank, i was more angry. cos i hate people using tears to make me do things. But to not make things worse, i kept quiet and just waited. and the parents hurried the slping SIL to wake up and dress up. I waited 1 hour! before everyone was ready to leave the house. by the time i left the house was already 1000, reached the destination at 1030, sat till 11am and left.
but mom's luncheon was scheduled at 1pm, so imagine i reached there at 11.30am and she was almost done. so defeats my purpose of helping.
so that's the end of my 2 days torture.. and i seriously dont understand why people have to fake that their family damn united when at home is worse than strangers. What's the point of the house visit, forcing everyone to stick together when everyone just dislike interacting with you cos you cannot even communicate properly? What's the point of welcoming the fortune god when your house is not even happy? you think he wants to come and stay with your family?
do you know that you are so important? your mood affect everyone else's mood in the family and determine if they like to come home or not.
In conclusion, my CNY was a total flop. The stress level and depression level is no less than my wedding preparation. and in this case, i am nowhere near to excited/happiness.
what have i gotten myself into? totally cannot adjust into my marriage. All i want was a wedding.