Seeing so many of my friends enjoying parenthood. I m really happy for them.
I really think and feel that they r ready to be a mother. To sacrifice for their child.
But the idea of me getting pregnant is freaking me out. The thought of another burden is weighing me down.
With a child, whatever I do have to be at their interest first. Whatever I earn will be for their expenditure first. Whatever I buy will be for them. They will always be first and no more me.
I see many mothers losing their identity in the house. At least last time they r the precious apple of their husband's eye. After child birth, the children stand in the limelight, in between ur marriage. You will no longer be the woman of the house. You become the Mother or rather is just a nicer appointment of the Slave. You r responsible if ur child is hungry, fall sick, has exams/ competitions, don't do well, has a gf/Bf, get in trouble in school, ill mannered etc. But the Father will be most probably simply financing the fees, attend award presentations, blame the Mother why the child turns bad.
Is always the case of unbalanced responsibility that results in fights. The Mother don't feel loved and the Father simply only love the kids.
Since life is already design to be unfair where woman goes through prenatal n postnatal stress, child birth pain, in laws unadaptation, why can the man make things easier and for woman to feel more appreciated?
Was reading on some medieval tortures, all these are designed by men, ESP those with low self esteem. Otherwise why r the punishment for men so straight forward like hanging but is a long painful process for womean like drowning in pits or ripping off their breasts alive or even bury and stoning them to death?
Women suffered too much. And is add on from the actions of stupid men.
