Love cannot be forced.. that's why some ppl like the companion of another person but Choose not to be together with him.. cos she has someone else in her heart..at least she knows what she want.. she want the person who loves her to remain unhurt by substituting him for someone else.. she want the hope of the other guy who may or may not love her to be with her
many a times.. lovers are all bad ppl in the eyes of moral values.. they are not loyal nor faithful, they are not practical.. but those are ppl who does things that r redundant but considered romantic.. hence often lovers are concluded to be bad spouse..
but hearts will always tend to the more fustrating, heartbreaking, interesting, romantic, exciting personality.. cos we dislike boredom..
when it comes to time for marriage.. then those lovers will have a difficult time looking for someone who can match their personality.. who can tolerate their spouse gg out for another man/woman when they have to take care of things at home and worse still.. the person who sleeps beside u after cuddling with another person..
for me.. i know it is a moment of fun.. a moment of excitement of being caught.. just like the habit to steal.. but it not only hurts and breaks the heart.. it breaks the TRUST.. the trust between both of you, the trust and impression ppl around you have for u and the words spreads and ruin whatever image you want to carry.. it is then a tinted view
R n J is a good example... but i'm glad that she knows that she still cannot forget JH, hence she cannot accept R.. but as long as they r happy when gg out.. tt's enough for me to know.. all i wan is J to be happy.
in my opinion.. having 2-timer case is not a condeming sin... as long as u know what u wan.. ur stand.. guys n gers have the same authority to go out and play and flirt if they wan.. as long as they rem to come back to their HOME or their spouse b4 they go too far beyond the boundry..
i rem my coach told me.. there is this story.. the wife is pregnant.. n her husband is having difficulty curbing his sexual desire.. she passed him some money and a condom.. and said to him " go n find a prostitute, but make sure you wear your protection condom and come home after that"
she does that just to relief his physical desire by using a transaction.. it is so much better than he having a mistress that requires emotion strings.. hence know your boundry..
as long as you can clean away all evidence, and set your mentality right... of cos u can go out and have ur share of fun... just dun bring them back home
